Hi to everybody!

[nelle]

First I want to shout out a HUGE thank you to shagg-ette for inviting me over here from another board! I have read a little of the post on this board and I really realize just how right she was about this board. Much more friendly! I look forward to being a part of your community and getting some much needed advice from other women! Just to have another woman or women to talk to seems to be a HUGE relief for me.

MY husband is VERY supportive, but he just doesn't seem to understand why I don't want sex anymore? I DO want to have sex, but it hurts so much!!!!!! We have tried every jelly, lotion and such known to man and it works at first, but after 3-5 minutes it feels like sandpaper and I hurt for days afterwards!

MY hot flashes, night sweats and EXTREAMLY BAD mood swings were so bad, I thought I was going insane...HONESTLY! I asked my mom about it , but she said her meno was just a month and she never had any issues (ok mom, whatever) and have no other women in my family to talk to about it. My mom is finally starting to do research and finding out just what I am going through.

I tried everything on the market and some things would work for a little while and then just stop working. I refuse HRT's, as more women in my family have had or died of breast cancer and I have had 2 BIG scares of breast cancer, so I won't try them!

Finally (and lets remember that I have only been on it for a month) I found "One a day menopause formula, multi vitamin" and it has worked miricles for my hot flashes and Mood swings. I still have the occcasional hot flash, but the mood swing thing is better and better every day!

One last thing. For the last two months, I have had two periods each month. One the first week of the month that is hardly what I would call a period, I start, I bleed a little brownish stuff and then the next day I am done except for a bit of spotting for that 3rd day. Then the end of the month I have my regular period which I start one day, bleed the next and the next day is a panty liner day and I am done! I have, (THANK GOD) always had easy periods!

I have kept track of my period for the last 2 years and that dates are all wacked and out of control!!!!!!!! Here in the states, we can only go see our OBYGN once every 3 years, so I haven't been lately, plus the one I did have said it was endo and wanted to do surgery which it is not endo. I hardly have any cramps and did a ton of research on that. then all he wanted to do was put me on HRT's till I quit going to him. This Jan I get to go for an annual pap and I will pick another person, a women in the office and pray she understands me better.

So, that's my story! I am scared to death as to what is to come, as I read what some people have said on other places, menopause is not any better, but I take one day at a time!

Thanks for listening to me....Hope to meet lots of new friends here!

Nell

[gobe]

Nell and

[shimmy]

Hi Nelle

[Robyn]

Time to fess up - I am shag-ette...lol.... I fell foul of the moderators on the board that Nelle had posted on (no it wasn't THAT board). They didn't like me posting a link to another site, so they deleted my post, but I knew Nelle needed some other women to talk to, so I sent her a PM.

That board was a fairly inactive message board with mainly just the mods posting their POV on things, but there are some other ladies there who need some help, so I feel some more PMs coming on....lol...

Welcome Nelle - glad to see you here.

[susan]

Sept 18, 2012 16:17:36 GMT nelle said:

First I want to shout out a HUGE thank you to shagg-ette for inviting me over here from another board! I have read a little of the post on this board and I really realize just how right she was about this board. Much more friendly! I look forward to being a part of your community and getting some much needed advice from other women! Just to have another woman or women to talk to seems to be a HUGE relief for me.

MY husband is VERY supportive, but he just doesn't seem to understand why I don't want sex anymore? I DO want to have sex, but it hurts so much!!!!!! We have tried every jelly, lotion and such known to man and it works at first, but after 3-5 minutes it feels like sandpaper and I hurt for days afterwards!

MY hot flashes, night sweats and EXTREAMLY BAD mood swings were so bad, I thought I was going insane...HONESTLY! I asked my mom about it , but she said her meno was just a month and she never had any issues (ok mom, whatever) and have no other women in my family to talk to about it. My mom is finally starting to do research and finding out just what I am going through.

I tried everything on the market and some things would work for a little while and then just stop working. I refuse HRT's, as more women in my family have had or died of breast cancer and I have had 2 BIG scares of breast cancer, so I won't try them!

Finally (and lets remember that I have only been on it for a month) I found "One a day menopause formula, multi vitamin" and it has worked miricles for my hot flashes and Mood swings. I still have the occcasional hot flash, but the mood swing thing is better and better every day!

One last thing. For the last two months, I have had two periods each month. One the first week of the month that is hardly what I would call a period, I start, I bleed a little brownish stuff and then the next day I am done except for a bit of spotting for that 3rd day. Then the end of the month I have my regular period which I start one day, bleed the next and the next day is a panty liner day and I am done! I have, (THANK GOD) always had easy periods!

I have kept track of my period for the last 2 years and that dates are all wacked and out of control!!!!!!!! Here in the states, we can only go see our OBYGN once every 3 years, so I haven't been lately, plus the one I did have said it was endo and wanted to do surgery which it is not endo. I hardly have any cramps and did a ton of research on that. then all he wanted to do was put me on HRT's till I quit going to him. This Jan I get to go for an annual pap and I will pick another person, a women in the office and pray she understands me better.

So, that's my story! I am scared to death as to what is to come, as I read what some people have said on other places, menopause is not any better, but I take one day at a time!

Thanks for listening to me....Hope to meet lots of new friends here!

Nell

Hi Nelle

Welcome to MSI

Nice to see you here and of you to share your story.

Very difficult for you not being able to take full HRT due to having close relatives who have suffered from BC.

However I notice that you mention that your hubbie doesn't understand about the not wanting sex anymore because it is too painful.

Even though you have BC indictors in your family this does not mean you cant take topical oestrogen in the form of ovestin, vagifem or ortho-gynest. (These are the UK products brand names but most Countrys have an equivalent and I think Vagifem is International)

This is often enough on it's own to deal with any vaginal atrophy which is what you have. VA will never go on it's own and will progressively get worse.

You may need to take it for about three months before the vagina restores to full health and you feel comfortable enough to have a physical relationship with your husband again.

The way you take it is once a night for 14 nights and then twice a week thereafter.

The amount of oestrogen you get from these topical creams/tablets is absolutely minuete and therefore is not absorbed systemically. It could solve all these problems.

There are a few folk on here that no about this so if you have any questions or need support fire away.

xxxx

[Poppy]

Hi from me as well Nelle

xx

[rusalka]

Hi Nelle,

I'm also new here. I had the similar problem- sex was just painful and I'v got bladder infections after it. It was because of the lack of estrogen. I was quite devastated and my husband was afraid to touch me again, so it was a huge frustration for both of us. Then my gyno prescribed me Ovestin cream and already after 2 weeks the problem was solved! No pain anymore, no bladder infections, just everything normal again!! Now I'm using the cream twice a week. I can highly recommend it!

[stumpy]

Hi



Stumpy xx

[nelle]

Thanks you all So much, I feel right at home! I have had ALOT going on lately,but THANK YOU FOR THE WELCOME!

FOr those those that told me about the members only spot...THANKS! I am pretty open about all this, but yes I would be more comfortable posting there!

PLEASE forgivemy typos' I only have one hand to type with!....off to post some stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!!